I think everyone chooses, through their actions, what the primary focus of their life is. What do you most desire and seek, as you pass through your short time here on earth?
Here is a continuum I’ve created to help you determine what it is you most value:
|Self-focused||Power||Authority, influence, praise, validation, status, fame, money, accumulation|
|Self and other||Knowledge||Learning, judgment, wisdom, enlightenment; generating new ideas, insights and knowledge|
|Other-focused||Benevolence||Compassion, helpfulness, caring, generosity, sympathy, empathy, humanity|
It would be easy to dismiss this lightly, by concluding that you spend some time in all three categories. This is likely true of most or all of us.
But on which activities do you spend the lion’s share of your time? You may want to be helpful, and show others empathy and humanity, but if you spend most of your time chasing titles, promotions and money, then that is in fact your life. I don’t mean this as necessarily a bad thing, just a fact.
This is our one and only shot at life. We are all in charge—the navigator, and the captain, of our brief existences here. In all our actions and behaviors, we might decide to choose more wisely.