Husbands: How Well Do You Treat Your Wife? Take This Quiz

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I have learned that only two things are necessary to keep one’s wife happy. First, let her think she’s having her own way. And second, let her have it.

Lyndon B. Johnson

First of all, let me start by saying it isn’t easy being a husband in today’s society. We are almost always a major provider. We are expected to be strong and capable, and yet sensitive. We have a lot going on in both our work and home lives. In short, we are pulled in a lot of different directions.

It’s probably even harder being a wife—just ask her, or better yet, observe all that she does on a daily (or hourly) basis.

However, this particular quiz is for the guys. How do you stack up? Answer all of the questions honestly, and then we can discuss your results. Good luck!

  1. How often do you dictate the TV programs you watch, the movies you go see, and your vacation destinations:
    1. Always or most of the time
    2. We rotate who gets to choose, or we compromise and then agree
    3. Most of the time I let her pick what she wants
  2. Considering the overall work it takes to run your household, including child care, bill paying, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, yard work, home repair & improvement, etc., what rough percentage of the work do you perform:
    1. Less than half
    2. About half
    3. More than half
  3. Who most often gets their way in the major spending decisions they favor (e.g., home improvement vs. motorcycle):
    1. Me
    2. About equal
    3. My wife
  4. For day-to-day spending, who has the most leeway in their spending:
    1. Me
    2. We both are able to, and do, spend about the same amount
    3. My wife
  5. Who most often gets their way in major child-rearing and disciplining decisions:
    1. Me
    2. About equal
    3. My wife
  6. How often do you hold open the door for your wife when you are entering a store or restaurant?
    1. Rarely or never
    2. Often
    3. Always
  7. What types of gifts do you buy your wife for her birthday, your anniversary, and at Christmas?
    1. I don’t often buy her gifts anymore
    2. I usually get her at least something to mark the occasion
    3. Very nice and thoughtful ones
  8. How often and in what way do you kiss your wife?
    1. We don’t kiss very often
    2. Sometimes, softly
    3. Frequently, passionately
  9. How often does your wife seem satisfied after sex:
    1. Rarely
    2. Some of the time
    3. Most of the time
  10. How often do you belittle your wife verbally?
    1. Often
    2. Rarely
    3. Never
  11. Have you ever gotten physical with your wife, in anger, in any manner?
    1. Yes
    2. No
    3. No, and I never would

Well, if you haven’t already figured it out, here is what the results mean.

If your answers were mostly b., then you are treating your wife as an Equal Partner, which is great. To the extent that you also had some c. answers, you are making her feel like a Queen. You put her on a pedestal and reserve only the finest treatment for your cherished wife. Chivalry is not dead!

To the extent that you had some or many a. answers, sorry, but you are treating your wife like a Subordinate, or worse yet, a Slave. This is not exemplary behavior, and you might want to rethink some or many aspects of how you treat her.

Are any of us perfect? I know I’m not—I make mistakes and do stupid, thoughtless things all the time. We are all human. But do we try hard most or all of the time? When we do things, is our heart in the right place? Hopefully so.

Just try to be the best husband you are capable of being, and I’m going to bet your wife will be quite pleased.

About the Author ()

TIM MCINTYRE retired in 2004 from his position as president of Applied Systems after facilitating a successful sale of the company. At only forty-six years old, he made the unusual decision to fully retire to pursue other interests and simply enjoy free time. As a hard-driving Type A personality, this turned out to be a significant challenge for the Notre Dame and University of Chicago-educated MBA, CPA, and Certified Cash Manager.

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