How to Better Relax and Enjoy Yourself at Parties

Filed in Living by on June 4, 2015 4 Comments

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This is my third and final post on what Type A’s can learn from Type B’s. I have discovered that there is actually very little we should emulate about Type B’s, and that we are in fact quite superior to them, as I suspected all along (hah!).

I will admit, though, that due to our high energy level, perfectionism, and occasional arrogance, we Type A’s can be a bit of a handful, particularly in social situations. We tend to talk a lot, and may often be heard bragging about our accomplishments or those of our children, or laughing at our own jokes—all of which is less than ideal social behavior.

For some reason we feel the need to be “on” all the time. This somewhat manic behavior, along with being irritating to the other guests, is also stressful and exhausting for us personally. God forbid we should ever let our guard down.

If we take a page out of the Type B playbook for social situations, we might find that there is a way these events can be more enjoyable, for the other guests and ourselves, and certainly more relaxing.

So I suggest going into social situations without the desire to impress, but rather with the goal to just observe, and maybe even learn a little bit. Have your plan be to sit back, and just take it all in.

You might even consider listening!

What you will find is that no one really cares much about your opinions anyway. They simply aren’t that interested, and they certainly aren’t going to change any of their attitudes or behaviors regardless of your strenuous admonitions. Instead, see what they have to say. In some cases, it might be interesting. Even if you don’t actually learn anything useful, it is kind of fun to find out how other people think and what motivates them. I have to admit that I find myself laughing inside a bit at some of the strange and quirky people I meet at parties. It can be quite entertaining.

So the next time you are in a social situation, try to just kick back, relax, and take it all in. You will realize that the party goes on fine without a lot of effort on your part, and rather than raising your blood pressure for no good reason, you will have maintained a healthier attitude and disposition.

Now that I have completed all of the posts I can possibly think of on what Type A’s can learn from Type B’s (three, and even that was a stretch), I should probably begin my thirty or forty posts on what they can learn from us! If they were to take heed, which is unlikely due to their general lethargy and lack of capacity for improvement, maybe they would be more productive and less of a drag on society. We can only hope!

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TIM MCINTYRE retired in 2004 from his position as president of Applied Systems after facilitating a successful sale of the company. At only forty-six years old, he made the unusual decision to fully retire to pursue other interests and simply enjoy free time. As a hard-driving Type A personality, this turned out to be a significant challenge for the Notre Dame and University of Chicago-educated MBA, CPA, and Certified Cash Manager.

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  1. Sandy Tedford says:

    Ha! Are you talking to me??? Thanks for the chuckle!

  2. Karin Sizemore says:

    But it’s fun to sit back and listen and watch, especially if they’re drinking and you’re not :)!!

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