The 5 Things All Great Husbands/Boyfriends Do

Filed in Living by on May 29, 2014 2 Comments

great relationship qualitiesWhile discharging patients today from the hospital as part of my volunteering duties, I met many interesting people, and was quite fortunate to meet one particular couple. They were likely both in their 60’s, and she had just finished getting a radiation treatment for cancer. As I wheeled her through the hospital, I was first struck by how lovingly they referred to one other. She had a pet name for him, and he called her “Dear,” all of which I thought was very sweet considering how long they’d probably been married.

When we arrived at the front of the hospital and the husband walked off to get their car, I sat with her, and she remarked, “Now that’s a real man. My husband has taken such wonderful care of me during my prolonged sickness. He understands what it means to be married. I simply don’t know what I would’ve done without him. He’s such a sweet and dear man.”

This made a deep impression on me. Her husband, who at first glance appeared quite meek and ordinary, was in fact a great man and husband. I suddenly had tremendous respect for him.

So I began thinking, what makes a man an exceptional husband? Here are my top 5 attributes for what constitutes a great husband (or boyfriend). It is not intended to be exhaustive—I’m sure you could think of many other fine qualities to add to my list.

  • He takes wonderful care of you when you are sick – As in the example above, an excellent husband will dote on you and take care of your every need when you aren’t feeling well. This includes doing things that are not his normal duties, possibly such as washing clothes, grocery shopping, and preparing meals. He doesn’t quibble, and simply does whatever needs to be done.
  • He encourages you and supports your dreams – An excellent husband is as committed to having you fulfill your dreams and aspirations as he is about fulfilling his own. He wants you to be successful and happy, and is neither selfish in his support of you, nor jealous of your achievements and accomplishments.
  • He is 100% devoted and loyal to you – A fine husband doesn’t flirt with every woman who passes by, but instead is completely focused on you. He can appreciate a good-looking woman, but doesn’t marginalize you by gawking and flirting. He would also never cheat on you, because he loves you too much and highly values your hard-earned mutual trust.
  • He does whatever it takes to provide – A great husband and father will work hard every day to help ensure both you and your family are properly provided for. Whether it involves going after a promotion, getting a second job, or “demeaning” himself to make ends meet by taking a menial job, he will not allow his family to struggle or suffer.
  • He creates romance both inside and outside the bedroom – Last, a wonderful husband romances and satisfies you in the bedroom, and also tries to create a sense of mystery and romance in other areas of your relationship. He plans fun dates, surprises you occasionally with flowers, and enthusiastically celebrates your birthday. He understands that while both of you are committed only to each other, a sense of adventure and romance is still possible and worthwhile.

These attributes can as easily be prescribed to a wife/girlfriend as a husband/boyfriend, and as I said, I’m sure you can think of many other desirable qualities to add to the list. I just hope this concept gets you thinking about the wonderful person you married or are dating, and how you can enjoy their love and companionship to the fullest!

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TIM MCINTYRE retired in 2004 from his position as president of Applied Systems after facilitating a successful sale of the company. At only forty-six years old, he made the unusual decision to fully retire to pursue other interests and simply enjoy free time. As a hard-driving Type A personality, this turned out to be a significant challenge for the Notre Dame and University of Chicago-educated MBA, CPA, and Certified Cash Manager.

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  1. Lisa Fox says:

    What a beautiful story. I imagine the frightening issue of cancer has allowed both the husband and wife to realize what’s important and what they mean to each other. Just as touching as the wonderful care given by the husband, is the wife’s heartfelt appreciation of him.
    I hope she says to him, the words she shared with you.

    • Tim McIntyre says:

      Hi Lisa. Yes, I’m sure you’re right, the pain and uncertainty of her illness has brought them closer together. The challenge for the rest of us is to be as appreciative of our spouse, and our lives, without the need for cancer to descend upon us, right?

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