The 5 Things Awful Husbands/Boyfriends Do

Filed in Living by on August 7, 2014 2 Comments

what is considered bad behaviourI recently wrote a post titled “The 5 Things All Great Husbands/Boyfriends Do,” and it got me thinking, what do terrible husbands and boyfriends often do? I usually write positive articles, but I think this will be instructive, so here goes!

Awful husbands/boyfriends tend to exhibit the following behaviors (if you are a man and happen to see yourself in any of these, don’t blame me, it’s not my fault that you sometimes act like a jackass!):

  • Selfish There are many ways a person can be selfish, but my pet peeve is when husbands/boyfriends make little or no effort to find activities that they and their significant other have in common so they can share time together. Why the hell did you get married? When you have a week off for vacation, do you really have to golf every single day? And stay at the bar for hours with your buddies every night afterward? (I can hear the guys saying, “Yes, I do!”) Sorry to be a wet blanket, but good husbands/boyfriends at least occasionally plan activities with their wife/girlfriend so they can have fun together.
  • Difficult & childish When they finally agree to do something “the wife” wants to do, terrible husbands/boyfriends childishly spend the whole time being difficult and annoying. They make the situation worse by “making you pay” for forcing them to do something they didn’t want to do. A good husband/boyfriend realizes that as long as he has agreed to do something, he might as well make the best of it and find some positive aspects in it, if only out of kindness and respect for you.
  • Liar & cheat I think this is self-explanatory. Bad husbands/boyfriends are dishonest, distrustful, and disloyal.
  • Lazy Lousy husbands/boyfriends are not hard workers, but instead are slothful (I like that word!). They don’t seek overtime or promotions at work, they aren’t helpful around the house, and they don’t assist family and friends in need—they just do the minimum they can get away with. Just like the much maligned sloth!
  • Badmouthing & disrespectful My wife and I have noticed how some men (and women) verbally put down their significant other, both to their face and behind their back. For example, a couple will be in the back seat of our car on the way to dinner and they will argue and say nasty and hurtful things to one another. Or we’ll be at a party and someone will walk over and badmouth their husband or wife, referring to them as an “asshole” or “bitch.” Good mates don’t disrespect their significant other in this way.

Hopefully you don’t see yourself or significant other too much in this list. To be fair, everyone slips up every now and then—we are all human, and we all have bad days. Part of being a good spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend is also being forgiving. However, if these behaviors are too frequent, you might want to take a hard look at yourself or your relationship. If your husband/boyfriend exhibits these behaviors often, you might want to rethink your relationship with him. Your significant other is a critically important person in your life and you don’t want that person dragging you down and making you continually unhappy. You deserve better.

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TIM MCINTYRE retired in 2004 from his position as president of Applied Systems after facilitating a successful sale of the company. At only forty-six years old, he made the unusual decision to fully retire to pursue other interests and simply enjoy free time. As a hard-driving Type A personality, this turned out to be a significant challenge for the Notre Dame and University of Chicago-educated MBA, CPA, and Certified Cash Manager.

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  1. Colleen McIntyre says:

    Tim…I LOVED this article! You just summed up why I am single and happy 90% of the time!


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